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The volume should have stopped afterwards like 150 pages. Information technology's so long and ii/3rds of it is recycled Tim Ferris (who I
I'thousand going to fight my urge to be nice to critique this volume. I will say the nice things commencement--I thought the exercises toward the offset of the book were really useful and helpful. Especially the ane about writing down all the rules that y'all've fabricated for yourself that you feel bad nearly breaking and the one nearly trying to figure out exactly what you lot similar and want. Ok. The not prissy...The book should have stopped after like 150 pages. It's so long and 2/3rds of it is recycled Tim Ferris (who I detest) and Tony Robbins and all the other douchebags who teach people how to be assholes and not practise things they don't want to do. He gives an example here of a friend asking him to get together and him modeling his response which was that he cannot do that for the adjacent 3 months. Total dick move. Sometimes--not always--yous have to do things you don't want to do considering that'south what community and friendship and family involves. While information technology's important to not live a life that is filled with doing things other people want you to practise and evidently people need boundaries, but people being generous to others and donating is sort of what differentiates good people from bad people. He seems to think that most people are being passive aggressive when they agree to do things they don't want to do or that they'll resent it. And I've definitely been there. But sometimes y'all exercise things that you don't desire to practise and y'all simply tell yourself that you're doing it for the other person or for the team or for mentorship or whatsoever and it's fine. Y'all don't get resentful. Anyhow, the latter half of the volume made me feel very Non Nice toward the writer
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"Politeness and diplomacy are responsible for more suffering and death than all the crimes of passion in history. Fuck politeness. Fuck affairs. Tell the truth." - Brad Blanton, writer of Radical Honesty
p. 29
Perhaps you play this former story again and again in your listen: The ones I like never like m
Some highlights in the kindle addition. Lots of good content, but sometimes I get bored with standing. It's about taking everyday personal risks and honestly connecting, the opposite of pop culture."Politeness and diplomacy are responsible for more suffering and decease than all the crimes of passion in history. Fuck politeness. Fuck diplomacy. Tell the truth." - Brad Blanton, author of Radical Honesty
p. 29
Perchance you play this sometime story again and over again in your mind: The ones I similar never similar me back.
p. 35
Hesitation: Y'all ofttimes expect for the "right thing" to say (and thus speak style less than y'all usually do).
p. 48
You lot'll start to see that there is no threat in the disapproval of others, which allows yous to relax in a deep and powerful way. You'll also see that being in healthy relationships with others is not at all like walking on a tightrope. It's actually more than like a v-lane expressway. Y'all can veer left, right, and all over the place, and still stay continued.
p. 57
At this point, any new pain or discomfort I experience, the first question I enquire myself is, "what could be upsetting me in my life correct now? What feelings might I not want to feel?" Then I commencement feeling emotions straight, and magically and consistently the pain subsides.
p. 108
[Aziz's] Rights:
I have the correct to approach anyone I want to start a conversation with.
I have the right to alter the subject or end the conversation whenever I would like.
I have the right to insert myself into a conversation and interrupt someone who's speaking.
I take the correct to say "no" to anything I don't want to practice, for any reason, without needing to justify it or give an excuse.
I accept the right to ask for what I want.
I have the right to ask why and negotiate if someone initially says "no."
I have the right to offering annihilation to anyone, any number of times (and they accept the right to say no). I have the right to change my mind; I practice not always need to be logical and consistent.
I have the right to enquire questions whenever I'd like to know something.
I accept the right to disagree with others (even if they know more about the subject than I do).
I take the correct to share my perspective, even if someone might disagree or temporarily be uncomfortable.
I accept the right to brand mistakes, mess up, or otherwise not exist perfect.
I take the right to not be responsible for others, including their feelings and problems.
I accept the correct to take time and space to be by myself, even if others would prefer my company.
I have the right non to take to anticipate others' needs and wishes. If they have them, they tin can limited them.
I accept the right to say aye to having sexual practice, to bask sex, and to interruption during sex to have a conversation.
I have the right to be treated with respect.
I have the correct to await honesty and integrity from others.
I have the right to experience all of my feelings, including acrimony, grief, sadness, and fright.
I have the right to feel grief most something for every bit long as that grief persists.
I have the right to feel something or do something without needing to justify myself to others.
I accept the right to feel angry at those I love, and to express information technology in a responsible style.
I have the correct to express my feelings assertively while respecting others.
I have the right to choose how much I want to come across a friend or someone I'thousand dating, and end the human relationship if it does not feel desirable to me.
p. 131
The expert news is, even though it's scary, boldness is e'er rewarded in the long run. Always.
p. 135
"I hear about your mom, and your brother, and your dad. I hear virtually anybody else and what they want. But I don't hear much of you in the story. Information technology's like you're a small graphic symbol, and your needs and wants don't actually count for much."
p. 139
"You tin be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and at that place's nevertheless going to exist someone who hates peaches." - Dita Von Teese
p. 171
[Bag of Ones] 100 people and say "hi" to everybody, 99 would say "hi" back and i would coldly stare you downwards and say, "Oh… information technology's y'all. What are y'all doing hither?" Whenever we become to a new environment— a networking event, a conference, a party, a new job, or anywhere else where nosotros're putting ourselves out there— nosotros imagine that ane person. Nosotros may even become so far every bit to find the one person at that consequence that gives us that cold, negative response, and add them to our Bag of Ones.
p. 184
The core mindset of assertiveness is: My needs thing then practise yours. Allow's have a clear discussion about what nosotros both want to see, what might work best for us both. Sometimes I volition choose what serves me, even if it upsets y'all. And sometimes you will do something for yourself, even if I don't like it.
p. 220
If you desire to be a person who is taken seriously and seen every bit a leader both in business and socially, you must acquire how to communicate with a tone of certainty. The good news is it's not that hard. Yous don't have to become smarter, gain twenty years of experience, or achieve annihilation else commencement. Y'all can but beginning doing information technology at present. Speaking with certainty is just a design of voice tone and body language.
p. 252
"In fact, the quality of your life depends on how many of these uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have."
p. 264
Unless the whole earth reads this volume and follows it, its worth nix. I think these books are idealist and totally unrealistic. Actions have consequences. Y'all cannot do what yous want all the time! I liked the start half only by the terminate I was rolling my eyes at the self righteous psycho babble that is rife these days. Be yourself or else!
Well this is one of those.
How was this volume?
Short respond: Life-changing
Long answer: I've struggled with people pleasing, anxiety, low self esteem, and stuttering my whole life. I wanted to please anybody. Say yes to everyone. Say yes to nobody. Everybody else came before me. Someone asks me to aid them move? HOW could I POSSIBLE say no? Considering if I say no, so they won't like me whatever more right?
This is
Well this is one of those.
How was this book?
Curt reply: Life-changing
Long answer: I've struggled with people pleasing, feet, depression self esteem, and stuttering my whole life. I wanted to please everyone. Say yes to anybody. Say yeah to nobody. Everybody else came before me. Someone asks me to help them move? HOW could I POSSIBLE say no? Considering if I say no, then they won't like me whatsoever more right?
This is such a poisonous mindset, and this book Actually elaborates on that.
In the first affiliate, he tells you that his goal is for yous to somewhen see the term "Nice guy" and think of that every bit a terrible disgusting matter that you lot would never always desire to be. His goal was definitely accomplished past the end of that book. I was the biggest nice-guy/button-over that I knew. Everywhere. Work, schoolhouse, relationships, you proper name information technology.
I have been completely transformed.
I run across the words "nice-guy" and information technology induces nausea and repulsion. Ok maybe not to that extent. Only I definitely don't run across "nice-guy" the aforementioned equally I used to. Not at all.
I can honestly say without a doubt, that I am now the MOST believing person I know, and I mean that with all the honesty in my eye. I feel powerful, in control, less anxious, happier, and I even stutter less lol.
This volume gives you a new pair of eyes that yous can never close. You run into things you never saw before. Yous realize merely how much people apologize for ANYTHING that doesn't warrant an amends.
Example #one:
-I accidentally castor upwardly against someones shoulder while walking in a hallway-
Old me: Sorry well-nigh that
New me: *silence*
What the hell practise I have to apologize about? I didn't practice ANYTHING wrong.
Instance #2:
-A friend asks me to assistance them move-
One-time me: I would love to! and you know I would! its just [I am now lying...] its just I take to take care of this thing at 5pm and I tin can't push it dorsum whatsoever further.. Man this sucks, because I totally would aid you movement, I just tin't today.
New me: I'll pass actually, I'm tired and I really just wanted to relax today.
This is now how I really respond to requests like this.
I never thought I could be capable of existence so believing, confident, and in command. I used to come up across obviously assertive people and be jealous, even resentful toward them because I wished I could be like them. I wished I could have their confidence.
I now consider myself to be more assertive than the virtually assertive person I've ever met. Those people who I used to be jealous of? I don't consider them to be equally assertive equally I am now. My family and friends detect that radical change. I brand saying no wait piece of cake.
And it is honestly VERY easy at present. I now say no to people with no guilt. This book teaches you how to exercise that.
BUT Alarm:
The steps in becoming this way are VERY uncomfortable at first. MdAziz gives you all the steps you need and outlines all the exercises for yous, but you HAVE to do them in order to change. In that location's no other way. Y'all tin't just read this book and become transformed. Non gonna happen.
The only way to become the assertive person that you want to be is by DOING information technology. Follow the steps. They are SO UNCOMFORTABLE AT FIRST. But information technology really does go easier with time.
The first exercise, when I did it, I was so incredibly uncomfortable I wanted to hide lol. Now looking dorsum, doing that do over again seems effortless to me now.
But that's just the thing, you lot Demand to be willing to go through the discomfort. If you're not willing to do that, don't past this book. Honestly. Just if you're willing to get through the discomfort, this book volition absolutely change your life forever.
This book as fabricated me incredibly assertive, Actually spiked my conviction, lowered my feet, and even lessened my stuttering. And it goes away more and more every mean solar day.
If there is i affair in my entire life I could change, it would be reading this book much before in my life.
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I had a habit of wanting to please others. From my immediate family to co-workers and bosses. I used to experience that it was best to remain quiet rather than speaking upwards on some matters. This book holds a lot of truth to it and I have practical a lot of what I read to become out of wanting to satisfy others but to have left myself unhappy. Some relationships are cleaved never to be repaired because I stopped trying to make them happy. And I am content with whe This will not be your normal kind of review.
I had a habit of wanting to delight others. From my immediate family unit to co-workers and bosses. I used to experience that it was all-time to remain serenity rather than speaking up on some matters. This book holds a lot of truth to it and I accept applied a lot of what I read to get out of wanting to satisfy others just to take left myself unhappy. Some relationships are cleaved never to be repaired considering I stopped trying to make them happy. And I am content with where we are considering of the reality of this read. ...more
I eye-rolled at his stereotypical relationship advice about femininity and masculinity, where he advises the masculine partner to "take" and "own her." His history in men'southward groups really shines through and makes me cringe.
There'south a solid takeaway here for people who take on too much responsibility for the feelings of others, but I wonder if the advice within is actually all that healthy. Information technology'southward based on (lengthy) personal experiences and anecdotes. You certainly might still become a lot from the book just past asking yourself questions as y'all listen, but I have a 18-carat question: Is in that location a book that provides the same cocky-reflection without the cringe? I'd be interested in that book.
If that book doesn't be, so my suggestion is to take this book a la carte. Glean meaning where you can and dispose of the remainder. You might have a 3 or fifty-fifty 4 star feel that style, particularly if you relate to the writer more than I do.
...more If you ever feel the slightest bit of responsibility for everyone else'southward feelings, motility this book to the t
As a cocky-help book, this volume will clearly be of more use to some than others. For me, information technology was absolutely life-changing. I've always accepted myself as a people-pleaser. However, until this book, I only had no clue about the psychological and emotional impairment that a lifetime of cultural, social, and religious indoctrination will exercise...if I allow it. I've read it twice and will read it again.If yous ever experience the slightest scrap of responsibility for anybody else's feelings, motility this volume to the meridian of your list.
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It's also very actionable. I listened to the audio book (read past author) and he was so persistent near pausing the audio and writing some things downwards. Which I personally liked because I oftentimes say afterwards and
I loved the content of this volume! A lot of details on our conditioning to go nice and how the environmental pressures start taking u.s.a. to not exist ourselves under the notion of you are not dainty! Shortly enough we start becoming timid because nosotros don't want to be perceived equally not nice or a-holes.It'due south too very actionable. I listened to the audio book (read by author) and he was so persistent about pausing the sound and writing some things down. Which I personally liked because I often say after and after never comes. Writing down stuff helps with witnessing some serious transformations. Thanks Aziz Gazipura
All in all we are definitely existence manipulated on daily basis under the magical spell of Be Overnice and Not Prissy book is a legitimate fashion to interruption the spell
My key take aways:
i- You are not responsible for other people's feelings.
This was similar WOW! I am personally a very empathic person and would normally intendance that other people are feeling great in my presence. Yet this resonated with me because people's choices to feel good or bad is like I said A CHOICE, that I have zippo to do with.
two- Being nice is definitely not beingness authentic
All those hangouts we did not want to nourish and the amount of things we say yes to just secretly feel resentful about are mere signs that we are NOT GENUINE with our true needs and wants.
We merely want to be nice so agree to things against our personal interests.
3- Phonation your concerns openly and clearly.
Information technology is non as bad as you lot remember. Equally long as you are existence objective and not personally attacking people, you lot will be fine. Voice disappointment, don't let people INTERRUPT you -all those golden rules about conversational etiquette are rarely followed and people will interrupt you at piece of work, schoolhouse and personal life.
So if yous experience you need to say something then firmly and considerately say information technology. e.chiliad.:
I am non done still with my point. Let me finish and then you can speak.
4- What people remember of y'all does non concern you.
People will always have something to say about you. Fifty-fifty if y'all are the nicest person on earth (overnice people already know this!)
A good instance is how kids just say what's on their minds. They only blurb stories mid way and starting time talking with enthusiasm about admittedly none-sense with no censorship nor business organization nigh what you MIGHT recall of them or their story! They merely presume y'all will like it because they genuinely like it themselves.
Moral of the book - Do a factory reset and get rid of those dainty shackles.
P.S. At the end of the book at that place is a 30 24-hour interval boot camp that requite y'all a small daily task to Break FREE of your NICE PROGRAMMING.
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The almost important takeaway from the book for me was to ensure that i take care of my needs and interests without fail rather than ignoring or sacrificing them for othres. Only when you experience fullfilled, happy for your self, so just you can give and spread love, joy and empathy towards others effectually you.
Eye opening book for introverts similar me! The volume addresses all the bug existence faced just for the sake of existence "squeamish" to people around y'all.The most important takeaway from the book for me was to ensure that i take care of my needs and interests without fail rather than ignoring or sacrificing them for othres. Only when you lot experience fullfilled, happy for your self, then merely yous can requite and spread love, joy and empathy towards others around you.
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I'm at a point in my life where I'm doing a lot of inward reflection, and Non Nice was the platonic book for me right now. Not Squeamish is for people like myself who struggle to exist believing and direct and tend to accept the more polite road, often at our own expense.
Non Nice aims to teach that the opposite of nice isn't hateful, but rather authentic. I might not have agreed with Aziz Gazipura on everything, but I learned a lot, and for that, I'm grateful.
4 starsI'1000 at a point in my life where I'm doing a lot of inward reflection, and Not Nice was the platonic volume for me correct now. Non Nice is for people like myself who struggle to be assertive and directly and tend to take the more than polite route, often at our own expense.
Not Nice aims to teach that the reverse of overnice isn't mean, but rather accurate. I might not take agreed with Aziz Gazipura on everything, just I learned a lot, and for that, I'one thousand grateful.
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At first I was all up for it, going all in, only sad to say, the feeling faded. I realized a affair or two well-nigh myself and others (credit to the book here), and in the end couldn't buy into to the concept. Don't get me wrong, the approach is good, just non enough. Information technology'south not that simple. I wish information technology was. (Reading Messages From A Stoic by Seneca, parallel to N Not Dainty by Dr Aziz Gazipura, has got a expert bespeak or two. Just, the theory non holding upwardly (according to me) in the end, kind of spoils the fun.
At start I was all up for it, going all in, but sorry to say, the feeling faded. I realized a thing or two about myself and others (credit to the book here), and in the stop couldn't buy into to the concept. Don't get me wrong, the arroyo is good, just not enough. Information technology's non that simple. I wish it was. (Reading Letters From A Stoic by Seneca, parallel to Not Nice, equally I did, certainly didn't make things easier. Not at all! A peachy challenge though. I recommend it.)
Some quotes (summing the book up rather nicely):
"You're not responsible for other people's feelings, wants, desires, and needs. Yous exercise non have to meet everyone's needs. Yous don't have to practice everything that someone wants you to practice. Yous don't accept to do anything that someone wants, if information technology is not correct for you. You're not responsible for meeting their needs–they are. Yous doing something for them is but i possible mode for them to meet their needs. If you say no, then it's their responsibility to notice a different way."
"Your capacity to tolerate discomfort is i of the most valuable muscles you could e'er develop."
"I'm not for everybody. That simple insight lead to a profound sense of relief. I no longer needed to convince every person who came beyond me or my message that I was a good, worthy person. Some people would love what I was doing, and some would not. That'southward OK; I'yard not for everybody. Just thinking it or saying it out loud makes me smile. Try saying information technology out loud right at present: "I'm non for everybody." Isn't it a relief?"
"It's good to discover what I want It's proficient to ask for what I want. Information technology'due south good to say what I desire. It's skilful to say what I don't want. It's practiced to be able to put myself first."
"we get upset when nosotros perceive our needs are non being met."
"What do I want? What don't I want in this state of affairs? What exercise I prefer? What sounds expert to me? Asking these questions will help you lot become more aware and connected with yourself. This is essential because chronic indecisiveness is a consequence of being disconnected or alienated from your true cocky."
"Y'all cannot stop others from feeling all discomfort, or all pain. It is an impossible task, a fool'due south errand."
"But What About Jesus?"
"Fuck politeness. Fuck affairs. Tell the truth."
And repeat.
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The audio volume was very long, as others have stated, but I recollect this is the type of book that y'all take to heed to a footling bit at a fourth dimension to take in the lessons. While information technology was repetitive at times, it made me more mindful of when I'grand beingness 'likewise overnice' and non my authentic self.
3.v stars.The sound book was very long, every bit others have stated, but I think this is the type of book that you have to listen to a little bit at a fourth dimension to accept in the lessons. While it was repetitive at times, information technology made me more than mindful of when I'yard being 'too dainty' and non my authentic self.
...more Aziz Gazipura has a tremendously powerful mind. He bent my worldview on multiple occasions and had me scrambling to write downwards notes.
Highly recommended for anyone. Literally anyone.
Or should I say "non nice" ;-)
If y'all're a people pleaser similar myself, check it out! I gained a lot of skilful insights that take effected the way interact with the world for the better.
From this book I accept worked on meditating after these events too. In this mode, the book offered what I had been looking for since I was in loftier school.
So, why 3 stars? The author'south advice kind of works like a cafe line throughout the book, and some of the advice but doesn't work. For instance, I took the advice on being firm when starting the conversation, but in his 2d pace of this department, he advocates telling a workplace assailant by saying something like "I don't take fourth dimension for you to act like a child" if the aggressor got defensive. Essentially, to fight burn down with burn. This was, in essence, what had been getting me into trouble in these situations and just was terrible advice in my experience.
But, in a completely different section of the book (one I wasn't even recommended to read), the author then talked about the importance of being calm but firm in your requests to a close friend. If your friend gets defensive or throws out distractions — to continue your initial asking in a respectful, but firm way. I ended up taking parts from both of those strategy to develop a strategy that has seemed to work for me. Only, step 1 of this other procedure (approaching your friend about a habit of theirs that annoys you), information technology advocates that instead of beingness upfront with your friend, to instead say "I noticed that you have this habit" and have your friend open up nearly the habit and and so while they're talking about it bring upwardly your issues with it. To me this feels passive ambitious, and virtually manipulative, every bit you are approaching a conversation with a close friend nearly a habit of theirs, earlier revealing how it bothers you in what feels like an underhanded manner.
The writer likewise tends to lose his main thread in his points. He oftentimes layers his advice with stories, anecdotes, and excessive amounts of item that make his point by signal cocky help book meander in unnecessary narratives.
At the cease of the twenty-four hours? I am thankful I read this book. The strategy I developed has already paid dividends and I'm thankful for information technology. If there'south whatever advice I accept, it is to care for the advice in here like a buffet line, some of it may be smart to pass on, just other parts you may love and may be very helpful to you.
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The reason I picked this book upwards is that I simply SUCK at confrontation and conflict. Just spelling out these words made me clench upwardly. I hate disagreeing with people I dearest, I hate raised voices, I detest the notion of hurting and/or disappointing someone. I also don't feel comfy speaking my mind if I know my opinion might make the other person feel bad.
I prefer to keep it in, r I never considered myself socially awkward or shy. I am pretty outspoken and feel comfortable engaging with people.
The reason I picked this volume up is that I simply SUCK at confrontation and conflict. Simply spelling out these words made me clench up. I hate disagreeing with people I love, I hate raised voices, I hate the notion of hurting and/or disappointing someone. I likewise don't experience comfortable speaking my mind if I know my opinion might make the other person feel bad.
I prefer to continue it in, resent everyone, be passive-aggressive and complain to other people. All of these coping mechanisms suck and point out that I am really not nice to begin with, I am only a coward and a control freak who feels she tin brand everyone experience good and everything run smoothly at all times.
Of course, that doesn't work and all that pent up resentment blows over and… well, either helps me get to the bottom of things and work them out with people, all the while thinking how much more painful it was inside my head than out in the open OR I realize all that was for naught considering the people you bend backwards for stop liking you the infinitesimal y'all evidence a human side or threaten them in some way. Who would've THUNK?
I desire the courage to be my authentic cocky which is - yes - sometimes moody and cold, sometimes goofy and weird, who doesn't like small talk, who sometimes talks too much because what she has to say is interesting and funny and amazing, who is a flake selfish and spoiled and does not desire to settle for less than what she likes.
This book is every bit good as any other to begin this journey, I guess. It has some useful exercises and pointers. I did not care for the way (which was painfully unfunny fifty-fifty though the author tried and so hard to be) and also the writer seems to exist one of those life coaches/trainers types that freak me out, what with getting up at iii AM (!!!), going to the gym every solar day, not giving their kids candy and just over-optimizing every attribute of their lives. Too, he reeks of an ex-M'lady fedora wearer and has very weird photos on his website. I know I'grand not judging the author, but the author'south personality kind of spills out into the book. AND THAT'S JUST MY Stance. I'd previously try to reason that i might exist intimidated by his volition power and secretly envious of it but at present I say to myself: stop! Accept that this is how you feel about Aziz and that'due south valid. You don't owe him anything. So I guess the volume worked? ...more than
This book is longer than information technology needs to be. The bulk of the informative content is in the later capacity. The outset chapters build upward to it, and then much when I finally arrived at the chapters that had useful information, I was already tired of devoting time to reading the rest. I can't count on all fingers how many times Gazipura plugs his other conten
In the spirit of practicing what this book preaches and echoing what other readers did to review this book, I will requite my aboveboard "not nice" review.This volume is longer than information technology needs to be. The bulk of the informative content is in the subsequently chapters. The showtime chapters build upwards to information technology, so much when I finally arrived at the chapters that had useful information, I was already tired of devoting fourth dimension to reading the rest. I can't count on all fingers how many times Gazipura plugs his other content throughout the book. There is nothing incorrect with referencing other means of his work but it was a fleck overkill, especially when at the end of the book at that place was a total list of his other resources. I can tell he is very much a devoted family/father figure, although at that place were some parts that delved also much into his personal life or were irrelevant to the primary betoken of the volume. I do sympathize in writing this book, he was also analyzing and working on his ain ways of non being nice.
This book does have some solid gems though. I admire him explaining impression management, bold actuality, over-responsibility for other people's feelings, and how anybody is the helm of their ain ship. These things are non taught to us growing up and even as adults, we accept a hard time navigating these feelings. I especially like his perspective on the victim mentality, that victims see life happening to them *all the same*, we must not focus on people beingness victims equally they really are capable of changing their narrative. This has made me more mindful of budgeted those "victim-mentality" individuals. Although the compact parts of this volume deserve 4 stars, I accept to requite three stars for the reasons I explained in a higher place prior to this paragraph.
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After reading through the book once, I am able to understand its concepts. To put the concepts into exercise, I will need to re-read some chapters over again. The examples and exercises in the book were splendid, easy to complete, meaningful, and easy to relate to. However, I am not going to lie, this was a long volume. I'm not certain if information technology could accept been trimmed, but I definitely was clicking kind of fast through some of the pages while reading on my iPad. Some of the explanations were a bit repetitive. I call up saying it one time and letting it sink in would be more powerful than standing to explain the same signal.
Concepts such as "embracing your shadow," "existence selfish," and "finding comfort in discomfort" actually had a big touch on on me. Frankly, I am excited to kickoff implementing what I learned from this book equally soon as possible. I thought this volume served as a skilful complement to the book "Psycho-Cybernetics" because they both encourage people to end "overly filtering" their true nature. "Nice guys" are highly inhibited - they need to start interim and speaking Before they retrieve; they are way likewise much in their heads, which makes it hard for others to connect to them.
...more I did think the awareness of the behaviors, the how this came about perhaps, how nosotros autumn into a rut, etc was a good center opener for everyone as a check and balance in all situations in life. His listing of steps in starting a new you,... perhaps it could have been more than of a list of steps on how he changed.
...moreIn 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social feet. Through his unique blend of compassion, humor, and personal courage, Dr. Aziz has helped thousands of people all over the earth increase their conviction. Through conviction coaching, sound and video programs, podcasts, a detailed weblog, and intensive weekend workshops, Dr. Aziz lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have e'er dreamed of.
He lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife Candace and son Zaim (who he claims is the "nigh socially confident badass kid in the world.")
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